People are like this; they all want to become a version of themselves that they have never been.
The predecessor of the cool and stylish sister may be that the people around her project traditional female expectations onto her, or say that she doesn't look like a girl in the environment.
Similarly, behind the adorable boyish figure, there might be a toxic patriarchal family from a young age that forces him to behave in a certain way, to be a proper man.
There is no absolute ideology; one is their own ideology, without praise or blame.
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